Perception

I saw a nice quotation on the display board in my office today. It was there since ling but I was struck by it today only. It reads:
"If you don't like something change it, and if you vacant change it, change the way you think about it."

Of course it's a very tendency of us, the humans, to change what we don't like...n we try to change into something worth liking. (Now guess what is it we try to change? Well most often we try to change others' behaviour because they don't behave the way we want them to...)
But how many times does it happen that people change because we wanted them to...? (We all know our response I hope)

To tell you the truth we all struggle in this regard. I'm writing about it but I too am a victim of it. But I have a hope in the later portion of this quotation...
So I, with great difficulty, try not to be judgemental of people's behaviour. I am working towards a complete belief that yess...people are different so let the people be...!,
It's all i can change my mindset...and  miraculously, the whole scenario will be changed.

Change the mindset...and the best is yet to come...
😊

I will ...

...I didn't just care about anything which tried to come in between me and my passion...I went on...living my passion...loving it each day more and more... understanding every blockage in the way...but not getting influenced...eventhough they could move me a bit at times...but my will for what I love...kept me going...it always brought me back on the track...n I always will...be on the way to love more genuinely and deeper than ever...it doesn't need to be that you achieve what you love but it is in caring about your ...for each and everything...I hope I too understand it when I deal with the situations and be able to respond lovingly...
Come what may...

Thinking of love

When I get gloomy I reflect on myself, the way that I deal with the people whom I love...then I see people, doing wonderful small small things for each other's, hugging, kissing n talking with each other, waving hand to see off with a hope to meet as soon as possible again, buying a small thing/s for their loved ones n gifting it, sparkling eyes while reading the text message of ...? (Yes, you guessed it correctly😊). These are all the messages of love. But often they're not expressed in a way they they should be expressed.
But love needs to be expressed.
One thinks s/he loves a lot but if fails to express it, it fails to convey.
It needs language to convey that you care that you love. Language not that you know the best...language that your beloved ine understands the best.

Nainital- Oct.2016

I'm here again, amidst of crazy nature loving people. Some are just looking at the lake and trying to enjoy the pleasant breeze flowing. There are these friends sitting together excited about something that they're showing to each other, taking selfie.
Clouds now just coming slowly trying to cover the whole vale. A few boats rowing in the lake.
Something about this place that demands you to stay. It asks you to be here n live in the moment for a while.
For me it is the valley all total. There's this very point where so many people come and meet, they chat, sit together, eat, purchase the things...make memories. It may sound strange but the one who's the most important in your life, has also have been here, sometimes with family or friends, if not with you.
I'm also sitting here but I am imagining if I were with her, right here right now. The beautiful thing is that she also has been here.😊
Will I come back again here? I don't know. But till the time I'm here let me make the best of this time.

Persistence

Taking one away with the desires of the flesh is easy but strong convictions aren't so easy to stay at something. However dear to you is something, someone but the time comes and normally takes it away from you. You don't want that to happen. You try to stay firm, steady. But there will always be some force working which is powerful enough to drift you away.
This is a normal phenomenon in almost every individual's life. We're vulnerable to breakdown. Sometimes easily and rare times we break later. There are reasons to it and they differ from person to person, depending on their faith in themselves or in something(maybe love, relationship).
But whatever it is, I tell you it is AMAZING when you overpowered the situation.

"Love " understood much better

Thinking of possessing one, isn't love. It's not just in controlling or in somehow getting, it's in giving it, sharing it...
More you suffer more it gives you courage to go on. No matter what happens to you, but you still focus on your loving partner.
Never regretting on what has happened but looking for what else can I do....
"The language of love doesn't speak of minimum obligations, but of max possibility"
I understand it better now...when I found the love of my life...
'Love of my life' because it can't be shared with anyone else...and also because she taught me to love no matter what she goes through, she loves me ...and it is expressed without her knowledge in simple simple ways...she doesn't even know when she does all that I need time and again. (Being angry but still fixing my salary account's problems😇, always thinking what's good for me to be happy whereas she sacrifices that liberty that she has).
I love her even MORE now ...now and forever.

FLAG

All humans have emotions, some are more or less emotional. Those who are very (beyond one's control) emotionally charged frequently, they tend to have less healthy relations than those who get emotional (sometimes highly) but know how to deal with it.
The first category of people suffer in their relationship also. They find it difficult to express the emotion in an appropriate way and in suitable time. It needs a lot of mastery and the skills to become the master.
Category two includes such people who have skills to channelise the energy of these emotions, the force that it is. Because if it is either contained (not expressed) or even if expressed but inappropriately...it will cause the damage.
That's what makes people loose their best of buddies too. Their loved ones no more find them so loving because of the inadequacy of a person in handling emotions. There is this "Emo Culture" picking up fast in not only country but almost everywhere. This present generation (not only youngsters but also some adults) have become "Now Generation".
Each and every moment every individual either hoists / raises the FLAG (Fear, Loss-Sadness, Anger, Guilt). It can be figured out with either the expressions (facial mainly) or by the behavior of the person. Every move of emotionally charged person makes others to react (positively / negatively - it depends upon the people - because people are different and so they will behave differently.). Whatever emotion one goes through that very 'flag' is up. If not lowered in time, (as soon as possible - 'before the sunset' according to the Holy Bible), it creates chaos (irritation, further anger, destruction, withdrawal etc.) with the victim. 😔😣🤐
It's not easy to deal with our emotions (sometimes due to our biological conditions in our brain). But at least we we can become aware and be mindful of the times when a particular emotion starts to take you for a ride. Gradually one can take charge of his/her emotions. Being aware and recognizing the very emotion in different situations would be the very first step. Channelizing it into a positive direction can be achieved later stages.

One shouldn't be the slave of one's emotions, one should be the Master of them.😊